Party Time: How Pitiful.

Playing a sad, sad song.

It's a party!

What?
          It's a huge pity Party!
Where?
          Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, etc.
When?
          Tonight (and every night)
Who's Invited?
          We'll get to that in a moment.

Music will include the world's tiniest violin playing the world's saddest song.....just for YOU!

Let it be known here and now that I am absolutely sick of ambiguous status posts by people who are wallowing in misery of their own creation and seeking pity from everyone around them.  We all have bad days, but the rational among us work pro-actively to correct any problems we can and set ourselves back on the road toward whatever form of happiness we seek.  Sadly, not everyone operates this way.  I see far too many people, lately, living lives of self-induced wretchedness and broadcasting their angst online for all the world to read in an effort to garner the most pity possible.  Well, I'm done playing that game.  If you are miserable and are doing nothing to improve your situation, don't come to me fishing for sympathy.  I'm saving my condolences for people who haven't the means to improve their situations.

So, what does this mean?


Let me give a few examples:

•  Have you been fired from your last 2 (or more) jobs because of attendance issues?  Too bad.  Get out of bed and haul yourself to work even when you have a headache or a backache, just like the rest of us.  Especially in today's saturated job market, there's always someone who's currently jobless and who'd love to have your job.  If you worked as hard at your job as you work at making up excuses to get out of work, you'd still be employed.
• Have your last 2 (or more) romantic relationships ended badly and in the same manner or under similar conditions?  Too bad.  Maybe it's time to admit that the common element in all your failed relationships is you and start trying to figure out what you could do differently to be a better partner in any future relationships you might have, should you be so lucky to find yet another person who will date you.
• Do all your friends and relatives, after babysitting you child(ren) only once, make excuses as to why they can't babysit all the subsequent times you're looking for a sitter?  Or, do they outright refuse to babysit for you again?  Too bad.  There are a couple of ways to look at this.  Perhaps your children need to be taught how to behave.  Perhaps you over-indulge your children or never tell them "no," and so they do not know how to react appropriately to not getting what they want.  Perhaps your children are acting out because they crave attention form you, and even bad attention is better than no attention at all.  So, if you're spoiling your children and turning them into unbearable brats, stop!  If your children are resorting to bad behavior to get your attention, take notice!  If your children are having behavior issues, make sure that you are doing whatever you can to be the best parent you are able to be.  You made the babies, now be responsible for helping them grow up to be something other than convicted felons.
• Do you have more than one child who was an "unplanned" baby?  Too bad.  Perhaps after the first one you should have done a little research on where babies come from.  If you "accidentally" had multiple children, maybe it's time you took a refresher course on human reproduction.  And, until you learn to manage your fertility, keep your pants on and your knees together.
• Got a terrible hang-over?  Too bad.  It's common knowledge that drinking alcohol excessively causes dehydration and that dehydration leads to headaches and other pains.  If you're going to drink, be sensible.  Limit how much alcohol you drink.  Before "passing out," take a precautionary Ibuprofen and drink a couple of glasses of water.  Really.....who would have guessed that something as simple as water would be the best hang-over prevention?

Certainly I could go on and on listing one example after another of the types of complaints I see online.  And, in keeping with the spirit of this blog topic (and realizing that this blog itself is one long complaint), here is how I'm going to improve the quality of what I'm reading online with regards to posts made by friends: If you are a chronic whiner who's not working to improve things for yourself, I will just start hiding you from my view.  I have complete control over what I choose to read online, and I am now making to choice to no longer read unnecessary whining.

I will not be attending your pity party.  However, if you're hosting a work party to help get things back on track, let me know, and I'll be there to aid with the life renovation!  Well, as long as there's going to be cake.