Matthew Nanny came into my life as a child. He attended the church where my dad worked at the time (also where our family attended church). I was in the 4th grade; he was in 6th.
At that time, our age/grade differences put us into different groups within the church. I was still participating in elementary activities, and he was among the youngest in the youth group. To those of us in the elementary group, all the youth group kids seemed so much older, and to them, I'm sure we all seemed like such babies. There weren't many activities that brought the elementary and youth groups together, so most of the interaction between us was in the form of joking and teasing in the hallways of the church during between services and Sunday school lessons and Bible studies and choir practices. I remember that Matt wasn't mean to those of us who were in the younger groups. He may have teased us a bit, but it was never mean-spirited.
The summer before I entered 8th grade, my dad got a job at a different church, and so our family began attending services at that new church. I lost tough with Matt, for the most part, only seeing him at activities where the youth groups from several churches got together. When we did cross paths at activities such as these, Matt would always smile or wave or say hello.
The summer before my Sophomore year of high school (1998), Matt and I ended up at one of these multi-church youth group events at Big Lagoon State Park. Throughout the afternoon, we ended up chatting several times. We next met up at a multi-church lock-in that fall. At the time, I was in 10th grade, and Matt was in 12th. We didn't attend the same school, but there was a spark of interest that night at the lock in, and before the night was over, I had received my first kiss -- from Matt. A week later, I got permission from my parents to invite Matt to our family Thanksgiving. He wasn't the first person whom I had called "boyfriend," but he was probably the first real boyfriend I had ever had. Unfortunately, relationships between teens, who attend different schools and don't drive yet, are difficult to maintain. This case was no different, and the entire deal lasted less than a month. Afterwards, we lost contact again for a while.